Tragic Inevitability

I am going to attempt to explain my understanding of this phrase. Ever since I bought that Lalah Hathaway cd, this phrase has stuck with me.
I think it means what she says; what will be, will be. Its just the 'tragic' aspect of the statement is what makes it complicated. Maybe it means something you know will happen, but you either don't want it to, or have no way of controlling/stopping it? Maybe you don't care about the outcome; that makes it 'tragic'.
Some things are bound to happen.
Again, I laugh as I face another summer in Southern California with a bleak outlook on my personal life. "Glimmers of hope" appear (shout out to Pres. Obama), but soon the glitter flakes off of the glue holding hope together. I often wonder the typical "why me?" Or "what am I doing wrong?" Living in such an image-conscious environment like So Cal, you internalize your differences and do something else or something about it.
I'm probably not doing anything wrong except living the life I choose to live. Judgemental? Who isn't? Naive? Damn right. Who knows everything? Scared? I'm only scared of things people pretend to be confident about. I guess I'm unashamed of being myself, no matter how immature and young-minded I appear. I honestly can't help it! And, I can't lie well enough to "stomp with the big dogs", so I will keep asking questions until I'm confident I can explain it to someone else.
I worry about myself in the sense that I have weird values that came from nowhere! I want the support of a strong man, but more than that, I want to be a support system for someone. When I fall in love, it happens quickly and intensely. When it ends, it hurts at an equal level. I learn new methods of dealing with men, with each man I talk to, but I never forget what it feels like to be in love. I always strive for at least that. I guess I'm old school or something. I don't know why. Never saw an example of love growing up, until I fell in it myself. (Raheem DeVaughn said "Why fall in love, when you can stand in it?"--damn) I am unwilling to get caught up in the 2009 game of love & consequences where you prepare for the end of the relationship instead of the here and now. It sucks. "Get you before you get me" type shit. Maxine Shaw (Erika Alexander from "Living Single") called it 'Prevenge'. Everyone seems unwilling to let the heart do what its supposed to. You got grown ass people walking around here with two brains. No heart. People underestimate the strength of the heart. It gets broken, but heals. I know how it feels to be hurt, and lied to. You can't shut the door on everyone because someone kicked you out of one. If someone finds the key to your heart, let them in.

"Tell me why, is it so?"
-Michael Jackson